Episode 91

91 - 4 Steps To Becoming A Better Listener In Your Relationship

Are you tired of constant arguments in your relationship? Do you feel like you and your partner are never on the same page? Do you wish you could communicate more effectively and improve your relationship?

If so, you're not alone.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs delves into practical strategies for becoming a better listener in your relationships. Alastair outlines four essential steps to enhance your listening skills and foster healthier, more meaningful communication with your partner.

These steps include:

  • Using Minimal Encouragers: Demonstrate active listening through simple verbal and non-verbal cues.
  • Asking Questions: Utilise open-ended questions to dive deeper into your partner's thoughts and feelings.
  • Reflecting (or Summarising): Show understanding by paraphrasing your partner’s words.
  • Giving Positive Feedback: Reinforce good communication with genuine appreciation and positive reinforcement.

Key strategies discussed in this episode to improve listening skills include practicing active listening, asking open-ended questions, reflecting on your partner's words, and providing positive feedback to foster deeper connections.

Resources Mentioned:

  • AngerSecrets.com – Access free resources and information on developing better listening and communication skills.
  • AngerSecrets.com/free-call – Schedule a free 30-minute anger assessment call to discuss your specific anger situation.

Listener Action Items:

  • Follow the podcast and leave a rating and review on your favorite podcast app.
  • Share this episode with others who might benefit from the tips discussed.
  • Visit AngerSecrets.com for more resources and to book a free anger assessment call.

Time Stamps:

00:00 Introduction

01:28 Step 1: Use Minimal Encouragers

02:41 Step 2: Ask Questions

04:36 Step 3: Reflect or Summarise

06:01 Step 4: Give Positive Feedback

07:27 Recap and Final Thoughts

About the Podcast

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Anger Secrets
The Anger Secrets podcast provides proven tools and techniques to control your anger, master your emotions and create calmer, happier and more loving relationships.

About your host

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Alastair Duhs

Alastair Duhs is an Anger Expert. Over the last 30 years, he has taught over 10,000 men and women to control their anger, master their emotions and create calmer, happier and more respectful relationships, using the power of The Complete Anger Management System. The Complete Anger Management System is a simple, proven and effective online course that will teach anyone how to control their anger in just 10 minutes per day. For more information, visit angersecrets.com.