Episode 67

67 - How To Stop Being So Defensive In Your Relationship

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs addresses the often asked question: "How do I stop being so defensive in my relationship?'".

Alastair begins by defining what defensiveness is.

He then suggests four steps to stop being defensive, namely:

a) becoming aware your defensiveness

b) empathising with your partner

c) taking responsibility for your actions, and

d) improving communication to effectively address disagreements without getting defensive.

Alastair encourages listeners to listen to and validate their partner's feelings, as well as communicate openly and honestly for a healthier relationship.

For individual anger management coaching, or to enrol in Alastair's powerful online anger management program, visit: angersecrets.com.

Time Stamps:

00:00 Introduction

01:17 Understanding Defensiveness in Relationships

02:14 Breaking the Cycle of Defensiveness: Awareness and Responsibility

03:39 Empathy: A Key to Reducing Defensiveness

04:39 The Role of Effective Communication in Reducing Defensiveness

05:12 The Journey to Change: Patience and Practice

05:55 Conclusion

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Alastair Duhs

Alastair Duhs is an Anger Expert. Over the last 30 years, he has taught over 10,000 men and women to control their anger, master their emotions and create calmer, happier and more respectful relationships, using the power of The Complete Anger Management System. The Complete Anger Management System is a simple, proven and effective online course that will teach anyone how to control their anger in just 10 minutes per day. For more information, visit angersecrets.com.