Episode 103

103 - The Winner's Triangle: How To Escape the Drama Triangle

Do you often feel trapped in the same patterns of conflict with your partner?

Have you noticed that your relationship sometimes feels like a game in which someone always blames, rescues, or feels like the victim?

Do you want to break free from toxic relationship dynamics and create a calmer, happier and more understanding relationship?

If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode is for you.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs introduces the Winner’s Triangle, a powerful model created by Australian psychologist AC Choi, as a solution to break free from the Drama Triangle.

Alastair details how the Winner's Triangle's three roles—Assertive, Vulnerable and Caring—contrast with the negative roles of Persecutor, Victim and Rescuer in the Drama Triangle.

Throughout the episode, Alastair provides practical examples and guidance on how to shift roles effectively to foster healthier, more respectful communication. This episode encourages listeners to practice these roles to transform their relationships and promotes resources.

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Key Takeaways

Understanding the three roles of the Winner's Triangle: Assertive, Vulnerable and Caring.

How to identify when you're falling into the Drama Triangle roles and strategies to shift into the healthier roles of the Winner's Triangle.

Practical examples of how to apply the Winner's Triangle in everyday situations to improve relationship dynamics.

Resources Mentioned

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Book a free 30-minute anger assessment call at angersecrets.com/free-call

Watch a free anger management training at angersecrets.com/training

Time Stamps

00:00 Introduction: Breaking Free from Toxic Relationship Patterns

00:31 Welcome to the Anger Secrets Podcast

01:28 Introducing the Winner's Triangle

02:38 Understanding the Roles in the Winner's Triangle

05:20 Applying the Winner's Triangle in Your Relationship

06:57 Example: Using the Winner's Triangle in Everyday Situations

08:35 Conclusion

About the Podcast

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Anger Secrets
The Anger Secrets podcast provides proven tools and techniques to control your anger, master your emotions and create calmer, happier and more loving relationships.

About your host

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Alastair Duhs

Alastair Duhs is an Anger Expert. Over the last 30 years, he has taught over 10,000 men and women to control their anger, master their emotions and create calmer, happier and more respectful relationships, using the power of The Complete Anger Management System. The Complete Anger Management System is a simple, proven and effective online course that will teach anyone how to control their anger in just 10 minutes per day. For more information, visit angersecrets.com.